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Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 04:32 am
My weekend

So I went to some friends of the family for Friday night dinner. I had this conversation with one of the daughters;

Sara: I'm probably going to Israel this winter for Birthright Israel.
Diana: Really?! You'll love it there! The Israeli boys are so hot and the nightclubs are fun!
Sara: Well I'm going to try to find a Birthright program that focuses more on the cultural, historical, and natural aspect of Israel.
Diana: Why? You should do a program that has the nightclubs and Shabbotones! (Shabbotones is where you spend the weekend, the Sabbath at a Jewish home)
Sara: I'm not interested in nightclubs and I'm not religious at all. I'd be uncomfortable in a highly religious Jewish household.
Diana: Oh, well you won't find the sort of program you want.
Sara: Yes I will, I saw of them last summer. Since Birthright will take care of basically all my money needs I'm going to go somewhere else after it.
Diana: Oh? Where?
Sara: I haven't decided yet. Either Egypt, Greece, or Italy.
Diana: Egypt!? Why Egypt! It's full of Muslims and there's nothing to do there!
Sara: Israel's full of Muslims, I don't care that it's full of Muslims! There's so much to see in Egypt!
Diana: What could possibly be interesting in Egypt?
Sara: The Pyramids? The Sphinx? Karnak? Luxor?
Diana: Ok, I know the Pyramids. Is the Sphinx that old lion statue thing? Luxor? Karnak? What's that?
Sara: *fingers twitching under table* Yes, the Sphinx is that giant sculpture next to the Pyramids. Luxor is a site of many beautiful Egyptian temples.
Diana: I still don't see what's fascinating about that.
Sara: You know I major in anthropology, you know I'm fascinated by ancient civilizations.
Diana: They're all dead cultures! The only ancient history you should worry about is the Bible
Sara: *twitches again and decides to change subject* Well I haven't decided. I might take in Greece and Italy!
Diana: I've always wanted to go to Greece! So many beautiful beaches!
Sara: Yes, the beaches are lovely there. I want to see the Parthanon, Acropolis, etc
Diana: What?
Sara: Ancient Greek building
Diana: Oh...so why Italy?
Sara: I want to go to various cities, including the Vatican
Diana: WHAT?! You're Jewish! Why would you want to go to the Vatican!!?!??!
Sara: It has gorgeous architecture! Plus there's art there...the Sistine Chapel!
Diana: I don't understand why you're so interested in dead cultures. You should be looking for a husband, you're too old to not be married. A good Orthodox Jewish woman is married by your age, you need to be havings kids too! By the time I'm your age I hope to have five kids.
Sara: I'd love to be married but I have to find the right man. As for kids, I don't want 5, I think the Earth is too overcrowded to begin with! I'll probably just have two, three tops. I'll probably adopt a child too.
Diana: Adoption? Well...I guess. There's plenty of single men in the temples!
Sara: I'm. Not. Religious.
Diana: Yes, pity.

GAH!!!! I like her, I do! It's just...she's so close minded and I'm not a great Jew I suppose because of my ways. I don't care...she's nice but...yeah. *SIGH*
I did have a good time though.

Saturday was very conflicting! First things first, my mom put together a Kiddish in my father's memory. The Jewish anniversary of my dad's death was Saturday, according to the Jewish calender. In the English calender, it's the 26th. Anyway, mom sponsored a Kiddish where some friends of Dad said some speeches. It was at my dad's temple which is pretty Orthodox! I look like a bag lady in skirts and try not to wear them if possible. I couldn't find a skirt that made me look decent for the Kiddish so I put on some nice dress pants. I was so worried I was going to get evil glares from the women since it's Orthodox. A few years ago I would have but a lot of members have died (old) or moved to another temple so I wasn't that uncomfortable. I saw some people I haven't seen in ages. Before the Kiddish, the rest of the Saturday morning service was going on. Well, first off, I dropped mom off at 10:30 then went home to wake up properly. I didn't want to be there all morning! I went back around 11:30, just in time for the Mourner's Kaddish, the prayer for the deceased. It's a beautiful prayer and I know it by heart. There's a video of it at the end of this post, it's a very moving prayer. After all that was over we went upstairs for the Kiddish. A Kiddish is the blessing over wine and challa (braided bread) and a meal.
The Rabbi of the temple talked about Dad as did the step-father of the girl mentioned at the beginning of the post, who we've known some time now. The Rabbi is such a sweet man and he never makes me feel bad about not being religious. Then some other temple members said some words about dad. It was lovely. Something was wrong though, a black cloud was hanging in the air. Why? My brother never showed up. We told him about it but he didn't come. Mom was super angry and hurt so when we got home I called him. Adam doesn't like that temple and he "forgot". I've been getting along with Adam so I was able to talk civilly to him about this. I don't particularly like the temple either, or at least I didn't, I have no issues with it now. I didn't want to go. Know what though? I did. It's the least I can do for my father. I go to temple a handful of times a year. This Kiddish was in my father's honour, I had an obligation as his daughter to go, and I did! It was 2 hours out of my life. Adam could have gone. My mother is still extremely pissed at him. I'm sure she'll forgive him but her mind frame right now is that she has no son. Yes, extreme and over the top but that's my mom.

After all that was over I drove home with Mom. I googled how to get to Whimsic Alley and checked out public parking lots in Santa Monica. Then I realized I needed to go to the bank and had 15 minutes to get there. I dash out the door and rush to the bank (without speeding, lol). After giong to the bank, I go home and print my stuff out. Then I realize I need to leave, so I head out *again*. The I-10 was basically deserted so it was smooth sailing to Santa Monica. I got to all the parking lots but it's a 3 huor max parking which wasn't enough! So I drive to the public parking lot for the 5th Street Promenade area and my luck improves, for a I find a space! Parking wasn't cheap but at least I had enough hours! From there I take the bus to Whimsic Alley for a smashing good time! I saw The Remus Lupins, The Whomping Willows, Catch Love, and Justin Finch-Flechly. So amazing! I've seen The Remus Lupins so I knew they'd be good! I was really looking forward to seeing The Whomping Willows, weee!!!
After that I headed home...or tried to. I accidentally made a wrong turn and let me tell you, when I make one wrong turn I get frazzled and flustered! I can barely see street signs so unless I'm really comfortable with the area, I have to rely on the signs. So I was driving around, grumpy as hell for not being able to find a recognizable street. I ended up from Santa Monica to Beverly Hills for some reason! Every time I spotted a recognizable street, I was already in the freaking intersection and couldn't make turns. I can't see the freaking signs! Finally, after a half hour, I recognize the area very well and get home. I know my freaking city, but when I'm driving and mess up at all, I'm prone to messing up more and being all turned around! Bah! I need to get my eyes checked again..I probably need new prescriptions...again!!! I also need to start seriously researching GPS units. I wasn't seriously looking but I need to now.

Yesterday (Sunday) was boring and tedious. My mom went to Solvang with my aunt and was gone the whole day. I spent the day cleaning my room and chatting with imonsie. Also did a bit of studying but not much. Later I talked to Ben on the phone, which was nice since he's always so busy.
I have so much crap on my bed I won't be using it..probably won't use it tonight either! I'll be sleeping on the couch for a few days. That couch is evil, I go to it to read and end up falling asleep. It's so comfortable, at least I won't have trouble sleeping in it!

Mourner's Kaddish, it's beautiful

I love this song, it's absolutely beautiful. It's the national anthem for Israel "The Hope"...it's moving.

The song Empty Chairs At Empty Tables from Les Miserables in Hebrew, sung by an amazing Israeli artist. *sigh*

I'm sick of people saying I'm not a good Jew. I try to be a good person and I think that's all that matters. I'm not religious but I'm proud to be Jewish so I hate how people (girl above for example) try to force religion on me and claim I'm not being a good Jew for not doing certain things. You can be spiritual without being religious! *huffs*

hehe, ok. Time to sleep...hopefully!

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worst-case-scenario girl
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 03:25 pm (UTC)

omg - that person is not only close-minded but completely uneducated. And she wants to pass along her genes? Scary.

Agent 27
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 10:27 pm (UTC)

Her goal in life is to be a wife by this time next year. She's 19 I think...it scares me :(

ReplyThread Parent
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 03:30 pm (UTC)

Screw those people. You can be a good person and a good Jew without doing those things. I consider myself a good Christian/Catholic and I don't go to church or any of that stuff. I pray every day and I read the Bible when I feel like it, if I feel like it. I don't think that makes me a bad Christian but to some people it does and I say screw them. That girl sounds like a lovely person, "I want to go to Israel for the nightclubs!"...yeah...I have no comment for that one. Unless nightclubs there are different in some drastic way than they are here.

Agent 27
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 10:37 pm (UTC)

Heh, a lot of the tour groups also go to McDonald's since the ones in Israel are Kosher. I don't really care about that :P

She's nice but her priorities are warped and she's close minded and ignorant.

I don't read the Bible, I know the Old Testament but I don't read it. I don't really pray either. I just try to be a good person, hehe.

ReplyThread Parent
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 10:43 pm (UTC)

Yeah, that's my whole thing with religion and politics. If someone is a good person I could give a damn less what they believe or support. I hate when people try to tell me I'm going to Hell or I'm not a good Christian (hell, I don't even believe in Hell!!!). Ugh.

And I can't believe she thinks you should be married and have five kids by now!!! What the hell?!! From my understanding people nowadays are actually getting married later and having babies later (like 30's!). Life is too short for that shit right now. I mean, I guess I understand that thinking because a lot of my distant relatives who are SuperSerb as I like to call them (the epitome of everything bad a Serbian could be) are like that with me. "Are you married yet?" "Babies yet?!!" "Marriage?!!" "BABIES?!!"

ReplyThread Parent
Mon, Mar. 3rd, 2008 03:53 pm (UTC)

your pal there is a fucking idiot.

Officer Kelli
Tue, Mar. 4th, 2008 01:03 am (UTC)

It's nice you included the videos, but they are too sad right now...I didn't watch them all the way through, sorry...:P
Well I can kind of understand her point of view...if you don't believe in all aspects of a religion you are technically not *that religion*...I was brought up Catholic but I believe in almost nothing of Catholicism, especially being pro-life and not using birth control. That would just be STUPID. I don't tell people I am Catholic, I said I was brought up Catholic but don't follow it...so yes I do understand her confusion in how you don't want the same things other Jewish people do at your age...
But the fact she is so close minded, yes that is really ridiculous. I don't give people shit if they don't wholly believe in their religion. It's not my business. There are Catholic people who are hardcore and would give me shit if they knew I use birth control and are pro-choice AND that I've had an abortion. But I don't care. You shouldn't either. Why let people's opinions on what you SHOULD do bother you? Be a duck, let it slide off like water.
And shame on your brother. I can understand completely why your mom is so upset...really that was a horrible thing to miss and a selfish reason not to go. Who cares if you don't like the temple? You're there for your DAD. I think that's sad...
I'm glad you made it to your concert, but wow parking sucks in that area of Cali...wowo...I can go to downtown SF and have no problems...and I don't have to take a bus...
If you get lost, try not to get frazzled. Think of it as an adventure...also if you don't get a GPS, you should definitely get a map book so you can figure your way around. I used to be horrible at map books, but I HAD to learn to use one for work and now I'm awesome at it. I think you could be too...:)

Agent 27
Tue, Mar. 4th, 2008 01:48 am (UTC)

There are many forms of Judaism. I never claimed to be an Orthodox but I am Jewish. If there's any branch of Judaism I consider myself, it would be Reform. Not all Jewish branches do the things she does, she's Orthodox and it's popular among the Orthodox to be married young and have lots of kids. I never considered myself Orthodox.

I have a Thomas Guide in my car but would rather not get lost in the first place ;p

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Officer Kelli
Wed, Mar. 5th, 2008 04:48 am (UTC)

Well maybe the chick just thinks you have to be Orthodox to be considered "Jewish"...I'm not saying that's right, but still...
Right I get what you mean, there are different kinds of Judaism and she seems to think you can only be one kind...That's kind of crazy to get married so young and have tons of kids...people who do that get burned out really fast and tend to have terrible marriages...sad...:(
I know you would rather not get lost, but sometimes it happens...when I get lost I just drive around, and try to find a place I recognize...it's no big deal unless you have to be somewhere at a certain time...:P

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Box Of Sorrows
Thu, Mar. 6th, 2008 12:03 pm (UTC)

Just stick to being a good person and doing what's right in your heart and you can't go far wrong in life as far as I'm concerned. I'm not the least bit religious in any form, I've no views and no opinions on religion but I do start to feel a bit uncomfortable if someone is trying to pressure other people in that kind of way...

That was pretty crap of your brother not to turn up, even just briefly :-/