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Fri, Dec. 28th, 2007 05:09 pm
This is just beyond terrible

Diplomat returns adopted daughter when wife has two children biologically
How can you raise a child for seven years and then just give it back like it was yesterday's garbage? I can't just comprehend how somebody can do this to a child (to anything!). They adopted the girl as a baby and gave her back seven years later because they had biological kids!? GAH! I'm adopted and I couldn't think of my reaction if my mom and dad gave me up if they had a kid naturally. It's a lose lose situation. They could keep the girl but they obviously didn't love her, so she would grow up in a loveless environment. Or, they give her back so the girl might have a terrible sense of self worth..
I hope that poor girl finds a loving famiy.

I realize I don't know the whole situation, only the family does, but from what it seems like...wow.

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ravenqueen55
ravenqueen55
The Rec Ho...
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:14 am (UTC)

That's just one of the most horrible things I've ever heard of. How could someone do that???


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witherwings7
witherwings7
Agent 27
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:17 am (UTC)

I really don't know. There's cases where adoption really doesn't work out but not for a reason like this! I know some other adopted people that have a sense of abandonment and I myself sometimes wonder why my biological parents gave me up. Can you imagine this girl; "my birth mom didn't want me, my adopted mom didn't want me"
It is heartbreaking, I haven't read a news article made me this mad and sad in such a long time...:(


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ravenqueen55
ravenqueen55
The Rec Ho...
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:26 am (UTC)

I've a few friends who are adopted, and luckily it's worked out the best for them. Once they knew the reasons for the adoption, they realized it was done from love and a sense of the biological parents wanting what was best for them...

..of course, that's not always the case, but I like to be hopeful and think that in most instances, it is. In this instance? I'me devasted for that little girl. I just mentioned it to my husband and he was in total shock. Even for us ~ who don't have kids and really have never wanted them ~ that's not something that would even cross our minds. Totally horrible.


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witherwings7
witherwings7
Agent 27
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:29 am (UTC)

I know my reason for adoption and I'm happy I was adopted. Those thoughts of mine are rare and far between thankfully.

My family is a big supporter of adoption, if I have kids I plan to adopt (might have one naturally but I woudln't give up the adopted kid!)

It is horrible :(


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azi_69_daniela
azi_69_daniela
Azi
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:30 am (UTC)

That's just wrong!!! Sometimes the whole adoption process doesn't work and they return the child but after 7 years and because they had biological children? Karma is going to bite them in the ass!


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witherwings7
witherwings7
Agent 27
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:32 am (UTC)

When there's a valid reason for adoption not working then it's in the best interest of all parties to have the child given back...but this reason? UGH!

I sure hope so..but I'm worried how this girl will cope. What will she be like at age 14?


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azi_69_daniela
azi_69_daniela
Azi
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:38 am (UTC)

That's the thing, they're the ones to blame if the girl turns out to be fucked up by this whole situation but if they though that they were going to damage her because they weren't going to pay her more attention because their new daughters then it's understandable why they did it, but still i's wrong :/


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witherwings7
witherwings7
Agent 27
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 01:40 am (UTC)

*nods*

This really makes me wonder about how they will deal with situations with their biological children.


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amelia_seyroon
amelia_seyroon
The Princess of Seyruun
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 03:05 am (UTC)

That is so wrong. The whole world's coming to an end.


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z3nyatta
z3nyatta
Val
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 05:25 am (UTC)

I was adopted too and I just can not imagine that. A seven year old is definitely old enough to realize what has happened to her. It just breaks my heart. :(


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pansylove
pansylove
Captain of the SS Panvi
Sat, Dec. 29th, 2007 09:32 am (UTC)

That is unbelievable. I can't believe someone could do that to a child.


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evilcresyluna
evilcresyluna
Miss Celie of the North
Sun, Dec. 30th, 2007 02:49 am (UTC)

Jeezus. I read a few articles, they're making up all these reasons like the girl doesn't like dutch food (wtf? My sister barely eats anything, probably linked to her developmental delays, and we kept her!), that she was "emotionally distant," and that social services said it was best - which the social services spokesperson didn't think was true.
Really sounds to me like they got shiny new perfect dutch babies and didn't want the older, "weird" adopted girl anymore. For all their cries of how difficult and sad it was, they never applied for dutch citizenship for her! It sounds to me like they never really made an effort to integrate her into their culture and their family.


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